If you think that was ’sot’, wait till you read this
Last Sunday nite, we went over to one of my wife’s relative’s open house. We arrived, went around greeting relatives and proceeded to sit down to start the buffet. We arrived after 7pm so the kids had already build up an appetite. After about ten minutes, my in-laws arrived. When they walked into the porch area where the buffet and tables were placed, my daughter immediately stood up and walked over to my in-laws. She then passed each of them, my father and mother in-law, a home made Valentine’s Day card.
During the week, I had suggested the idea to my daughter. This was when she made me a card. I suggested that she make a card for mommy and since she would be seeing my in-laws in the next few days, she should perhaps make them a card too.
She is quite attached to them but because of my wife’s feud with them, has not seen them for a very long time. She only saw them again recently before CNY and on the trip to Cameron. She was thrilled at the idea of making VDay cards for her grandparents. Hence, the eagerness to present the cards to them.
She was so thrilled when she saw them that she straight away got up without saying anything to me or to my wife. She just took out the cards and walked over to pass it to them. She chatted with them for a while totally forgetting about her plate of food on our table. That was how thrilled she was.
Today, I found out from my daughter that my wife had again scolded her for making the cards. Mommy does not like that she made cards for everyone. Mommy only wants to be the person who has the cards. So since my daughter had given cards to my in-laws, what did Mommy do?
Mommy took the card that my daughter had made her and tore it up in front of my daughter! "Mommy doesn’t want your card! If you want mommy to keep your card, you must only give it to mommy and not to anyone else."
I asked my daughter how did she feel about what mommy did? She responded, "What evar…" I know my daughter is happy to have given her grandparents the cards. They showed their happiness. She really doesn’t care if mommy tore up her card. She’s happy that she made her grandparents happy.
Some times, it’s hard for me to feel guilty of what I’m doing with *you know who*
What evar….
The little girl is gonna grow up to be a strong lady… but I hope she won’t be like her mother. Pengsan… YOU must guide her and shower her with alot alot of love… aihhhh… really no words to describe the woman you married…
Reply : What no word. I can think of many words. :P
Comment by angeles — 20 February 2008 @ 2:12 am
hmm, mebbe u can suggest to ur wife to become a politician so she can shout at whoever and whatever across the table to vent out her anger etc…:-)
Reply : Hahaha.. she should run for the Batu Gajah seat! :P
Comment by Shireen — 20 February 2008 @ 3:20 am
WHAT? Oh my… That’s a terrible thing to do. I’m glad that your daughter’s ok though. If I was young and my parents did something like that to me, I would think that I would be traumatized as well.
I guess I can’t understand where your wife is coming from and I cannot judge.
Hrm… hope your daughter’s ok from it.
Reply : Traumatized? Not if u’ve experience it too many times.
She’s ok.
Comment by Aleckii — 20 February 2008 @ 6:27 am
Selamat Pagi. Long time no come here la… solly. Busy like a sorpoh. Read yr postSSS later okie…
Reply : Yeah long time no see…
missed u like crazee…
wonder where u have been…
coz u’re no where to be seen…
Comment by Oscar's Mommy — 20 February 2008 @ 8:21 am
omfg… ur wife really got big big problem here lah .. even her own mother oso she “hap chou”..
nvermind.. nvrmind.. dun tulan … soon she will learn her lesson.. *hopefully… a great lessons*..
think from another angle.. with ur wife around hor.. u will hv more “chi kek” and interesting story to tell mah .. hor ??
Reply : Well her parents sort of abandoned her when she was a young child so that wan I can understand her hostility lar…
Chi kek ah? Walau eh! I prefer not to have lor…
Comment by janicel — 20 February 2008 @ 8:28 am
*lagi speechless*
Your wifey ah… really sot wan. Liddat also can do? How can she claim to love the kids then when these things she does is so wrong?
Maybe you need to get her physichiatrist help lor…
Reply : B4 getting her any help, must convince her she got some problems 1st. that also if she doesn’t become hostile.
Comment by rinnah — 20 February 2008 @ 9:03 am
My jaw dropped when I read what your wife did. I am beginning to understand that some of those sick characters we watched in the movies, is real afterall. How can her jealousy be so outrageous??? I dare not imagine what will happen to you shd she find out about ….
I hope your daughter will see things more openly and you sure do have a tough job to guide your daughter.
Reply : Yeah, nowadays when some complains to me about the things their wife or mother in-law did.. I can believe them.
I think she doesn’t really care (or perhaps she doesn’t wanna show it, doesn’t wanna lose) whether I’m having a relationship with someone or not..
Comment by WMD — 20 February 2008 @ 9:07 am
wah, ur wife never drink plain water everyday drink vinegar one ar?
Reply : Yeah, everyday go eat ulu yam lum mee, put alot of vinegar somemore.
Comment by ShannonC. — 20 February 2008 @ 9:23 am
Hokayyyyyy…….
It’s obvious she’s got issues. BIG ISSUES!
Time to see a lawyer..ok?
Reply : Well with the parents I can understand since they kinda abandoned her when she was a young child.
Comment by mott — 20 February 2008 @ 10:07 am
She leak of love. She scare no one love her, no one care her…she scare to lost everything. But she love face, she dont want to show to others or she show it in the wrong way..
She so ’sam hung jak’, she like ‘ngo tak ng dou gia yeah, lei dei tou ng sai zi yi tak dou’…type of people…like that how, she never feel happy 1,
**I am very very ‘yan xiong’ your ninja kungfu, I think you very high level edi cos you still stay with her :p
Reply : I think u r absolutely rite.
U take my situation and apply to ur own. If ur hubby was like dat, would u leave? Lose half of what u own and let the kids go with him? also think about ur husband saying that he will never let u see ur kids again. what would u do?
Comment by Rachel — 20 February 2008 @ 10:17 am
why your wife so psycho wan?
Reply : Bcoz she realized she married the wrong man? :P
Bcoz she didn’t expect having kids would be so stressful?
Bcoz when she was young, her parents kinda abandon her and she had an unhappy childhood?
I dunno lar…
Comment by wuching — 20 February 2008 @ 11:32 am
Now I lagi speechless about your wife liao. If my mum do that to me, I’m gonna create a cold war with her for the rest of my life. Muahahahahha!!! But I might do what your daughter is doing lor…just be happy and “Whatever…” with the mother since the mother is not happy with everything she does anyway…
Reply : Yeah, i think that’s what my wife and her mom is going through.
Comment by Clare — 20 February 2008 @ 11:44 am
hahaha somehow i pity yr wife. She’s always angry, nice to see her angry. *sound abit saddist here* but then…hahahhaah ask yr daughter to keep up the good work in making her mom angry and u go and do whatever with the you-know-who thinggy la.*glad u are not my husband*
Reply : Haha… Do u remember sometime last year, we were on msn and I said “Maybe I should have an affair? Hahaha”. Remember or not? Remember what u said? It’s your fault!!! :P
Comment by sasha — 20 February 2008 @ 12:10 pm
*SPEECHLESS*
but i’m really proud of your girl. she didn’t let it affect her. because i guess somehow she knew that your wife was not being reasonable!!!
and she was being totally totally unreasonable!!! how can one be jealous of her own parents???
Reply : There’s bad history between her and her parents. Ever since she was a very young child.
Comment by lingzie — 20 February 2008 @ 12:13 pm
I think if your wife go for brain scan, sure can see a lot of wires sot jor… Is there nothing good and kind about this woman??
..spiteful, vindictive, petty, small-minded, materialistic, shallow, envious..
It’s sad that at such a young age, your girl can already assume indifference to her mother’s behaviour. As a mom, I would be heartbroken if my children just dismisses what I say. I think your wife should read some of your posts, especially those regarding her behaviour and get a reality check.
I’m sorry if I sound harsh and unkind. But this whole thing is so screwed up! Is there nothing that can be done??
Reply : Everyone has some good points. When we were hot for each other, she did many good things.. nehmind lar.
I think if I got the kids in the divorce, she would miss them and perhaps be a better mom? dunno lar..
Comment by kat — 20 February 2008 @ 1:29 pm
woah, so many posts in quick succession. Have you had bloggra recently?
The things your wife does sound like getting out of hand… or was it a normal occurance? Not sure if you still care to tell her the error of her ways and what effects it will have on everyone including the kids. If she continues like that, not only will she incur the hatred of you, but also the children and 157052 other strangers that read your blog :P
Maybe sometimes, you don’t need to “yan” anymore and just let it rip…. Too bad you signed up with V not to raise hell anymore.. too bad.
Reply : What good is it to raise hell when it will only worsen the situation and make me tulan, raise my blood pressure, making everyone around me miserable. This breathe in, breathe out thingy is an experience… I’ve reacted b4, it didn’t work… let’s see what happens when I don’t.
Comment by hflee — 20 February 2008 @ 1:31 pm
But come to think of it, you do have a vested interest in painting such a bleak picture of your wife and marriage, don’t you??
notti adrian..*piak piak*
Reply : Errr.. u piak where ah? :P
Comment by kat — 20 February 2008 @ 1:32 pm
One word, Peenthai. Yah, that’s one word.
Reply : :P
Comment by sengkor — 20 February 2008 @ 2:12 pm
it’s the love for your two kids that kept ou from breaking ur long legged wife’s legs man!
hahaha….
Now i damn dulan is…she didnt want the card anymore la…so ur card kena torn by her really buta mia..
She’s nuts!!
Wonder how she’ll react if she find this blog…wondering…
Reply : She will probably ‘fark’ everyone here who gave bad comments about her. :P
Comment by pookyma — 20 February 2008 @ 4:55 pm
Then how come can such 360degree turn and change so drastically wan ah??
I piak you on the head with an inflatable hammer.. where do you think??
Reply : Dunnolar…
Which head? :P
Comment by kat — 20 February 2008 @ 5:14 pm
First she tears up your card, then she tears up her own card, now I wanna tear her apart. Hehe. Just jokinglah but seriously she is tearing a little girl’s heart bit by bit and that makes me tulan.
Reply : As long as it’s not kena whack, my daughter will just go what evar…
Comment by mumsgather — 20 February 2008 @ 7:52 pm
She must be really ’sot’ need to get her brain check. What is wrong with her. I really don’t blame you for being tulan with her. I will too if I have to live with her day in and day out. I think your little girl kind of expected her mother attitude that is why her answer to you was ‘whatever’ I guess is no big deal to her. What is important is that she gave the two V card to her grandparents.
Reply : Yeah, you’re rite that my girl kind of expect it liao.
Comment by Gert — 20 February 2008 @ 9:40 pm
so sorry to hear this you must be feel terrible .
dun’t know wat to say about your wive just hope one day she wouldn’t treat your little angel like this .
hope she will grown up like a mum not like a Bitch .
happy CNY sorry a bit lated I was back to malaysia during CNY, too bad didn’t have your contant or els will date you out for tea kekekeekekek,just got back from malaysia ,
have a lovely day xxxxx
Reply : Hahaha…. I dun want to comment on the negative stuff but just want to say a big, big… CONGRATS on the good news! Sept 08!
Comment by pearly — 20 February 2008 @ 11:28 pm
some one seriously need help…
now i believe it when they said in the marriage course i just attended, 1 out of every 10 malaysian is suffering from sakit jiwa!
Reply : Which one were they referring to? The wife or the husband? I sakit jiwa bcoz of my wife?
Comment by evelyn — 21 February 2008 @ 12:44 am
I think your daughter is more mature than your wife leh. I mean…it’s pretty pathetic behaviour lor…
Nehmind lah… i think you also seemed pretty resigned about it.
Reply : Yeah… I submitted resignation letter.
Comment by huiruhan — 21 February 2008 @ 9:48 am
She is still like that. Fortunately your daughter knows what happen.. My parents sure proud of me if I can make those cards to my relatives or friends. Why some people so different..
Reply : Why some people abuse their own children? Why some people can murder their own child? In this world, got such people wan. Look at yesterday’s news where a young child died in Kepong.
Comment by keeyit — 21 February 2008 @ 2:08 pm
Which head do you want jek? Edison’s head ah? :D
After I posted my last comment and shut my computer, it occurred to me that I should have added ‘Don’t ask which head..’.. :P
Reply : Ceh… u beat wan mah… u choose which head lor. :P
Hahahaha… now u know.
Comment by kat — 21 February 2008 @ 4:26 pm
I will be ready and waiting for her to fark lar.!!
Reply : Hahaha… I dun wish for her to find this blog.
Comment by pookyma — 21 February 2008 @ 4:29 pm
Wow..!! wat a bummer.. to have a mum like that.. :(
Reply : Yeah… but what to do.
Comment by Mama BoK — 21 February 2008 @ 4:30 pm
Your wife is getting from bad to worse… She is defintely a green eye monster! I pity your girl and I wonder how long your marriage is going to last. I wonder whether one day your girl will ask you bring her and leave your wife… sigh…
Reply : I don’t think she’s getting bad to worst. That’s the way it’s been.
My daughter will not want that. That I know.
Comment by Jasmine — 1 March 2008 @ 5:11 am