I want another child
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On Sunday night, I went over to my mom’s place to watch football with my brothers. When I walked in, I was surprised to see this little girl there. Her parents pay my mom to take care of her during the day when they are off at work. My mom is someone who doesn’t ‘kira’ and is willing to look after the little girl for a few days and nights straight without charging anything extra. She did it before when the parents wanted to go for a vacation.
This time the little girl’s mother had to get up early in the morning than usual, so she asked my mom to take care of her daughter for the night. Again no extra charge. Which babysitter so good wan you tell me?
Anyway, she’s 13 months old now and she can walk about and give funny facial expressions. Really ‘rugi’ I didn’t bring my camera last night. That photo above was taken a few months ago when she was just about 6 months old. Now she looks even cuter.
At that time, she was afraid to let me carry her (what to do my ‘yeung suei’ ugly) but this time when I opened up my arms and asked her whether she wanted ‘pou-pou’ (carry), she quickly walked over to me and let me carry her. It was a shiok feeling for me. (You swinging singles won’t now what I’m talking about wan lar).
I love kids. The whole night I was more caught up with her than the football. Ok, maybe not. But she made me smile many times. She mimicked us the whole time. When we shouted out "Oww! Oh!" because of misses chances in the game, she would follow us, "ooowwwww…. ooowwwww…." and won’t stop. Did I mention I love kids?
Sometimes when I visit some of your blogs, especially those of you mothers with young children and I read about your young ones, it really does put a smile on my face to look at photos of your young ones, to read about what they do, etc. That’s why I seldom leave comments. Why? Because I jealous. Hahahaha… nolar, just joking. I don’t want you to know that I was there. Must maintain my machoism a bit mar. How can a full blooded macho man like me, feel lum at the sight of a young child. Come mon! :P
Not long after my son was born, my wife asked me if I ’sau kung’(stop work) oledi with the birth of my son. She wanted one more. At that time, our marriage was already filled with tulan-ness and things between us got worst. So…
Now there’s no chance of that happening. Unless, someone gets me and my wife very drunk, strip us down, put us in a bed together and play some Kenny G music. Then perhaps.
I’ve also heard her talking to some relatives that after so many years now, she’s gotten her figure back and doesn’t want to ruin all her hard work by getting pregnant again. Can you read between the lines? This means she’s keeping a toy boy outside! :P Kakakakaka.
So my wife doesn’t want to get pregnant. ‘Someone’ doesn’t want to have kids. So what options do I have left?
Anyone want to get pregnant with my child? :P
Fuiyo Adrian… who would wanna get pregnant with ur child? :P
Reply : Yealor… that’s why now wan another one also difficult… kakakakaka.
Comment by Alvin — 25 March 2008 @ 1:12 am
Ohhh… no wonder la want to hug…
Eh… dun say liddat abt us “Swinging Singles” la, okay… I hv the same ‘feel’ when I’m with my 13 mths young niece… yesterday, suddenly she did a Kissing Spree on my face :P
Dun worry.. sure got lenglui dun mind having your child geh ;) But… u sure mou??
Reply : By swinging single, I mean those 18-26yr old party all nite, work no work also nehmind, dun have a care in the world type of people. Not u. Unless u’re still party all nite, work no work also nehmind, dun have a care in the world . :P
Sure lar…
Comment by angeles — 25 March 2008 @ 1:25 am
‘The whole night I was more caught up with her than the football.’
Brother how to concentrate when LIVERFOOLS lost to MAn United..3-0 man.I wanna do a post about it but sked kena beat up!!ahahahaha
Reply : REFEREE BIASE LAH!!! :P
But seriously, true liverpool fans will agree with me that we didn’t have any expectations of them winning it this year. They are still 2-3 quality players short of being champions. I expected either MU or Chelsea to win it. I also didn’t expect Arsenal to do so well.
Comment by pookyma — 25 March 2008 @ 1:49 am
Kenny G??!! :D
Sure you want to bring another child to the world? Big responsibility, you know. And the world is such a screwed up place.. :P
That’s what most people say, it’s always the hubby who want more kids and the wife dun. My case is terbalik. A lot of people, incl my MIL want us to have more kids because my kids got good *ahem* genes, but hubby dun wan. Me? I just wan to try again and see if the next one is like the first 2 or not. So cute if the 3rd oso paeng yan, hor?? I love my babies, esp when they are between age 1-4. They are extra cuddly then!!
Nowadays hubby never believe me whenever he ask if it’s ’safe’ or not… because everytime he ask, I always say ’safe’!! heehee…
Reply : Yeah, Kenny G.
Why not? So what if the world is screwed up, I’m sot sot dei also wat. :P
Yeah, age 1-4 that’s the best.
So if one day u’re ‘not safe’ and u tell him u’re ’safe’… then how?
Comment by kat — 25 March 2008 @ 5:21 am
Honestly? This all reeks of miscommunication. You should talk to her, ask her. Not listen someone’s who heard someone who overheard someone whom your wife might have or might not have told.
Who knows, she might think it’s a good thing also? For all you know it might just be the thing that will bring the spark back in your relationship. Hahaha.
Good luck!
Reply : Huh? Who overheard who overheard who again? Nolar, it was me. I heard my wife say that to her relative. Besides, my wife has oledi told me no more.
Comment by Aleckii — 25 March 2008 @ 6:54 am
Oh boy..!! i strongly advice against it. If you want to play with cute children hor.. can “kai” lah..!! become godfather lor.. ;)
Mine up for grabs.. so how..?? muahahahha!!
Reply : Kai where can go through raising them, getting up at nite, changing their diapers, bathing them, etc. Can ah?
Comment by Mama Bok — 25 March 2008 @ 7:21 am
aikes! suddenly mau anak no.3 ah? you sure or not? sleepless nights and endless diapers to change wor… i tabik you la, after so many years you still want another kid, i want to tutup kedai but hubby keep on pestering me for another one… grrrr. how?
Reply : How? Try for no 3 lor… kekekekeke…
Comment by Oscar's Mommy — 25 March 2008 @ 8:46 am
In our case, we both want but kenot due to age and health. BOOO HOOO HOOOO.
Reply : At least u’ve got kids, I’ve got frens who still can’t get any.
Comment by mumsgather — 25 March 2008 @ 10:15 am
jangan main-main lah .. whn it’s small u think it melt and cute jek …
ei.. are you trying to ‘ngam si’ to ’someone’ ar ???
Reply : I know lar… my dotter is 8 and is oledi throwing me out of the house, threathening to run away, etc. :P
‘ngam si’ who?
Comment by janicepa — 25 March 2008 @ 10:23 am
love kids?
i got a solution for u
wait lo… wait for ur kiddos to give birth, then u take care of the grand kiddos… :D
Reply : U think ah… when they grow up, they stop visiting u. They live their own lives. They prefer to send their kids to nursery than to let u take care of them.
Comment by ShannonC. — 25 March 2008 @ 10:49 am
go buy one lor
Reply : How much ah? Got buy one free one or not? :P
Comment by wuching — 25 March 2008 @ 11:02 am
adopt lah! then have multi coloured family~ just like angelina jolie and brad pitt! kekeke
i like babies that dont cry and are cute 24/7 those that cry i really beh tahan! feel like hitting them
Reply : OMGosh! U’re so mean! Babies of course cry wan lar… u hit them?? And u dare say Pookyma is mean. :P
Comment by Jess — 25 March 2008 @ 11:29 am
oh wanna remain macho-ness la.. thats why come my blog see i pregnant also never congratulate me la… fine..fine…
Reply : WEI! U REALLY PREGNANT AH!??
I saw the photo of someone (cannot see face)… 13 weeks… I tot who is dat ah?
Congrats! Congrats!
Comment by sasha — 25 March 2008 @ 3:04 pm
Haha … guys who love cute babies are so sweet!! I know that feeling - I used to want to have babies everytime I carry someone else’s in my arms. ;-)
The thing is, these babies grow up so fast and pretty soon, they become pre-teens, teenagers and then you gotta worry about boyfriends/girlfriends, college fees and the whole works.
I think u need a holiday more than a baby right now Adrian. Who knows, u might also end up getting a baby as a bonus? LOL
Relpy : I just came back from a holiday.
Comment by AM — 25 March 2008 @ 3:09 pm
As much as my husband and I enjoy our boys’ “babyhood”, we dare not think of adding another one. he is already saying that my stress level have increased since #2. So before I turned into an unreasonable insane freak… i better stop and just enjoy babies from the sidelines.
I never thought you would enjoy mummy blogs …bbbutt I rarely see you in my blog wor. how come??
Reply : Psst… actually the real reason I wan another is to drive my wife mad! Kakakakaka.. just joking.
I admit to u now ah… every time u update ur blog, I’ll read about it. I have ur blog on my google reader ok.
I read about ur son biting his classmate, I read about ur dilemma with chinese school, national school (I wanted to give my comment but then decided I should blog about why I chose national school for my kids buthen after sometime, potong stim liao, so never did blog about it) :P
Comment by WMD — 25 March 2008 @ 4:09 pm
Arrhh…so cute, wanna pinch her can ar?:p
I want baby no.3 too, but come to think of it deepest it really a big responsibility…think twice
Reply : Having kids whether no1, no2 or no3 is a big responsibility.
Comment by Rachel — 25 March 2008 @ 5:09 pm
Wei, other people’s kids are always cuter one lah. Play with them, so fun. You don’t have to change nappy, wash bum bum, clean up vomit, wake up in the middle of the night, etc…
Reply : It’s not just the playing that I miss, it’s the ‘feel’… dunno what lar… :P
I only tell u this ah, I dun tell anyone else… who do u think did most of the nappy change, wash bum bum, wake up in the middle of the night, etc… Me & my maid, or my wife? I think u know the answer.
Comment by king's wife — 25 March 2008 @ 5:33 pm
Haha… the lil’ girl can wrap adrian around her little finger with her cuteness…
Reply : Eh where got! I’m a full blooded macho man ok! ;)
Comment by rinnah — 25 March 2008 @ 10:57 pm
i love the way a baby smell… so nice, can actually get high :-)
Reply : Oh, oh… I love that smell too.
Comment by evelyn — 26 March 2008 @ 12:38 am
hey, you been readin’ too many mama blogs edi lar…:-P
Reply : Yalar… but there’s so many mama blogs around, so how?
Comment by Blur Mama — 26 March 2008 @ 1:19 am
ngam si .. V lor…
Reply : She likes kids but dun wan kids. Besides, how to have kids if not married? Can ah?
Comment by janicepa — 26 March 2008 @ 2:34 pm
How nice of you to only tell me, and nobody else. *rolls eyes* LOL!!!
Reply : Yea lar… we fren-fren mah. so dun tell anyone else, ok?
Comment by king's wife — 26 March 2008 @ 6:28 pm
Who say cannot have kids if not married? I know someone who is not married (legally) but have kids. Got legit birth cert summore, can go to school.. :P
Reply : Eh sure or not? If like dat hor… U mean I actually didn’t have to pay all those women who approached me with my child lar? Rugi lah! Kakakakaka. :P
Comment by kat — 27 March 2008 @ 1:45 pm
What do you think WILL happen if one day I tell him it’s safe and it’s not?? You dunno meh?? :P
Kaw chut yan maeng lor.. :D
Reply : Wah… sai mm sai or… so big elephant meh?
Comment by kat — 27 March 2008 @ 1:46 pm
Hi, been reading your blog for a while now, interesting blog you have here!
Reply : Thanks. Love the photos of ur Princess Cleo. :)
Comment by Nicole — 28 March 2008 @ 1:04 am