The teacher who told my son to get lost
I’m in Bangkok right now for work. I received a video call this evening from my dotter telling me that my son came back from nursery feeling ‘very, very sad’. He had been bullied by a boy three years older than him.
My son was sitting on the floor waiting for my brother to come pick him up when this boy walked passed him and kicked my son’s leg. My son protested and the boy punched my son’s arm.
I asked my son why he didn’t punch back. We’ve had this talk before about the types of bullies and when it is ok to defend himself. Hey, he’s my son. I’ll teach him the way I want to teach him. Don’t judge ok. :P
He said that the boy was much stronger and bigger than him and could punch really hard. My son was in tears when he was talking to me.
I then asked him why didn’t he report the boy to the nursery teacher to which he said that he did tell the teacher but the teacher just waved her hand in my son’s face (he showed me how the teacher waved her hand) and told him "I don’t care. Get lost."
Now tell me if it was your kid, how would you react?
I’m not so tulan about my son being bullied. It’s something that happens with kids.
But the way the teacher reacted was totally fucked up! She is supposed to look after the kids, protect them and care for them. How could she just wave her hand and say that she didn’t care!? On top of that, she told my son to get lost! I was raging mad. I was pissed mad.
I angrily asked my son which teacher and he said he didn’t know her name. She was a teacher from the office. The nursery my son goes to is only open until 6.30pm. If you don’t pick up your kid after that time, they will bring the kids over to the office building which is also a tuition centre for bigger kids. Parents will go there to pick up their kids after 6.30pm. So he was sent there when my brother came to pick him up at 6.45pm.
My son doesn’t know the teacher’s name but he described her to me. She was wearing a pink sweater and a white skirt, long hair and no glasses. My dotter confirms this because she was the one who went up to get him and saw the teacher sitting at the front desk.
Now I was really, really mad at what had happened and wanted to give the teacher a piece of my mind. But without a name it was going to be hard. Unless I call the nursery up right now and ask for the name of the teacher with the pink sweater and white skirt. And that’s what I did.
I called the nursery from the privacy of my hotel room in Bangkok. It rang and rang and rang and then a lady picked up the phone. I told her who I was and demanded to know the name of the teacher with the pink sweater and white skirt. I was loud and I was angry.
She asked me what was the problem and I said that I wanted to know the name of that teacher. She asked me to wait and after like a minute or so, transferred my call to the principal, a Mr. D. I had met Mr.D before when we came to check out the nursery.
Mr. D asked me for my name and I told him who I was. He asked me what was the problem and I burst out at him. I told him what had happened. I was angry. I was loud. I was rude. And I was cursing.
"How the fuck can she say that to my son!!"
"What kind of fucked up teachers are you employing there!!"
I used the word fuck alot in my sentences. Like I said I was really really angry. From the video call, I could see that my son was really affected by what had happened. Really demoralized. And I angrily told the principal so.
The principal asked me to calm down and said that he would talk to the teacher about it and would inform me later.
A few hours passed and I received another call. This time it was from my wife. My dotter had told her about what had happened to my son. I told her that I had called the nursery up and spoke to the principal about the teacher.
My wife asked me "What teacher?" I told her about the teacher in the pink sweater and white skirt that had told my son to get lost. My wife blankly looked at me and said that "I asked him. He said he never told any teacher about the boy."
"WHAT!? Call the little fella here."
My son comes to the phone and I asked him again. This time, he said he didn’t tell the teacher. He had lied to me. I was angry when I asked him if he had told any teacher and he was afraid that I would be angry at him because he hadn’t so he lied.
KAAA BOOOOM!
You tell me where I’m going to put my face now.
Fark!!!
Hailat lor such situation!!But my reaction will be like yours if such a thing happen to my son!
But ur image already kantoi d mia…so nvm lar…just adding into it!!hahaha
Reply : Hahahaha… yeah actually u’re rite… about the kantoi part. :P
Comment by Pookyma — 13 August 2008 @ 11:01 pm
Aiyo mah… abuden how come your daughter also say that she saw the teacher??
Reply : I asked my dotter if she saw any teacher in pink sweater and she did see the teacher sitting in the front desk but she didn’t she what happened with my son so she didn’t know if my son did tell the teacher or not.
Comment by WMD — 13 August 2008 @ 11:12 pm
aiyoyo!! why worry where to put ur face? liddis oredi still got face meh?? :p
if that’s my son i think i will whack him nicely when i get home :p but then maybe he tambah cili tambah garam to the story just to make u more kesian him.
Reply : Yeah… sure kena whack oledi with a baseball bat! :P
Comment by jjmm — 13 August 2008 @ 11:13 pm
yayaya.. u is The Man Without A Face liao… *kesian…*
eh, how cum tis time when u burst out *&^%$!! at the principal, u tarak kena “stroke” syndrome ah? so smooth? means u no stroke lar.. that’s one good news from this incident, no? :D
kesian that teacher in pink sweater and white skirt… kena yuen wong..
oops.. where are my manners… sawadee ka!!
Reply : My clogged artery already unclogged because of the anger. :P
kap kun kap. :P
Comment by angeles — 13 August 2008 @ 11:43 pm
ala, just act like it really happened when u pick up ur kid la.
your kid is the fucking win! if i succeed as a lawyer and have my own firm ill definitely take him in if he plans to and graduates with a law degree =)
Reply : Hahahaha… can also wor… :P
Comment by tingtitlei — 14 August 2008 @ 5:15 am
kakaka… where u wan to put ur face ka ?? i remembered u rant bout ur dorter lying rite ?? now your son .. so next time be a smart dady lor.. check it out first lor.. or maybe communicate with ur wife first lah …
dun loose ur cool so easy mah .. like dat not LENG LOU lor.. kakakaka…
Reply : Kakakaka… but at that time angry mah. U wait until one day ur little guy kena bully lar… then u will know the feeling. :P
Comment by janicepa — 14 August 2008 @ 10:11 am
Ok.. lesson learned.. thank you .. :) i will remember not to fly at the teachers..if my brat tells me something like that . . this coming fall.
Reply : Nolar… my kids are just a little bit more sneaky… like their m….. errr… nehmind lar. :P
Comment by Mama BoK — 14 August 2008 @ 12:48 pm
why hor you din check with your wifey first? Maybe she can handle it while you are away leh … But it shows how much you care for you son :D
Reply : At that time was very angry oledi, so didn’t want to wait for the wifey.
Comment by Shannon — 14 August 2008 @ 2:02 pm
Akakakaka…. cham ler u, now the long hair teacher with pink sweater and white skirt gonna teach u a lesson. Wei u in bangkok for how long? I’m goin bangkok soon wor.
Reply : U coming to bangkok? Aiyoh, then I better get ready the red carpet at the airport for u. :P
Will be here until next week.
Comment by littlepolaris — 14 August 2008 @ 3:03 pm
opppsie!
Reply : Opppsie indeed.
Comment by sasha — 14 August 2008 @ 3:21 pm
Hey, sorry to hear about your boy. Hey, I second somebody who commentated before me. Your girl saw the teacher too what? Hey, this is scary… :-P
Reply : Yes, she only confirmed that there was a teacher with pink sweater but she didn’t know if anything happened.
Comment by helen — 14 August 2008 @ 5:15 pm
hmmm… u taught me a lesson too here, like wat MamaBok said “lesson learned”… u better not show ur face in the nursery for a long long time! :)
Reply : Hahahaha… yeah… I should lay low for the time being.
Comment by Irene — 14 August 2008 @ 5:59 pm
Hahahaha @ angeles’ comment!
Be a big man about and apologise! :D
Once my hubby bought milk from Shop A. I thot he bought from Shop B, which I usually buy milk from. The milk bottle seal was broken. I took it back to Shop B and told the shopkeeper firmly that I will not accept the milk, doesn’t matter if he does not want to replace it. And I left the bottle of milk at his shop. Hours later only found out from hubby that it was bought from Shop A, not shop B. So I went back to Shop B, apologised and took the offending bottle back to Shop A and dumped it there, after Shop A refused to accept responsibility. So malufying, nowadays I seldom buy anything from either shop…
Reply : Yeah, I have no choice but to apologize.
Aiyah.. that’s not too bad. Mine was bad bcoz I couldn’t control myself and all the four letter words came flying out of my mouth. :P
Comment by kat — 14 August 2008 @ 6:26 pm
buy some cakes and give as peace offering, lol.
then you will come out a bigger man.
Reply : I agree with u 110%. I will apologize with some incentives. :P
Comment by mistipurple — 14 August 2008 @ 10:17 pm
Hahaha oh boy - why do these things only seem to happen to you? The principal must now be wondering what sort of parents there are in the world.
If I had a son like yours, I’d teach him to do the same - deal with these issues like a man and stand up for himself. It’s not like we want them to turn violent but running to the teacher everytime may make the kid a sissy when he grows up…..
Reply : Yeah, I’m sure he is thinking just that.
Yeah. That’s my view as well. Kids need to learn when to stand up for themselves.
Comment by hflee — 15 August 2008 @ 11:03 am
*ouch*
That one very pain. I think best therapy is the WHACK that boy that started it. it’s all HIS fault!
wakakakakakakakakakakakak!
Reply : HAHAHAHAHAHA… that is the best advice. :P
Comment by mott — 15 August 2008 @ 11:35 am
so your dotter also helped in the lying? aiya kids are lidat wan lah, never mind..just apologize to the principal, I’m sure he’ll understand.
Reply : No, my dotter didn’t lie. She only confirmed that she saw the teacher there but she didn’t see what happened.
Comment by wuching — 15 August 2008 @ 11:57 am
adoi! now all the teachers know you liao. Means you cannot show up in the school anymore lor. Otherwise u also will kena wollap!
Dim? Thick skin abit and apologise lor.
Reply : That wan no problem. My skin very think wan. :P
Comment by king's wife — 15 August 2008 @ 5:43 pm
WTF?! Sia soi nyer! You can hide your head up your ass liao lah like that. LOL! Summore told the principal who you are wor…
Reply : I tried long long time liao… my head still kenot reach my ass yet lar.. :P :P :P
Comment by Clare — 18 August 2008 @ 2:48 pm
I guess they just need your attention.. But so small also can act so seriously.. keng le.. hehehe… but must teach them la..
Reply : Yes must teach them to lie and dun blink eye next time. :P :P :P
Comment by keeyit — 18 August 2008 @ 8:56 pm
Wah..this one really malu.
Err..I guess have to apologise to the principle & the teacher lo. Make your son apologise too for telling a lie liddat.
Reply : Yes, sure will apologize wan.
Comment by Shooi — 19 August 2008 @ 3:19 pm
My question is why your son sked of u? U veri garang izzit?
For future reference, i think wat is more important here is that you make sure he knows that he can tell you anything without fear..he can always come to you with the truth.
Reply : Yeah I said b4 when I garang I turn green mah. Of course he sked lar. :P
Comment by Kopi Soh — 21 August 2008 @ 2:15 pm
*dig hole in the ground for Adrian* LOLOL!
*run*
Reply : Make sure the hole is wide and deep enuff orh… this time go in, long long time dun wan to come out yet. Very the ‘malufying’. :P
Comment by domesticgoddess — 22 August 2008 @ 5:54 pm
leave ur kid alone ler…he’l soon learn how to protect himself the nxt time…but one thing, ask him not to LIE!
Reply : Yeah, I try to let him defend himself unless it gets really bad then have to unleash the wifey on the poor bully. :P :P :P
Comment by Nux — 25 August 2008 @ 3:49 pm