If you haven’t guessed it by now, I’ve brought up the divorce issue with wifey.  An opportunity presented itself before X’mas.  The kids were away.  My wife asked me about X’mas plans and I told her about V.  It was a hard thing to do.  My head felt like it was in a pressure cooker.  Anyway, I don’t feel like talking about it now.

But in the end, I didn’t get to spend X’mas with the kids but I managed to ‘kidnap’ them on X’mas Eve. :P

V took dotter to 1 Utama where she pampered dotter with a haircut & rebonding, a manicure and some serious shopping.  I feel V is just trying so hard to get into the kids’ good books.  Worried that they might not accept her or something.

My son and I stayed back and went to the pool instead.  When they got back, dotter also wanted to swim.  I told her no because she had just spent a fortune on her hair but her Auntie V said it was ok (Trying hard again).  RM300+ flushed down the drain.

V had made reservations at one of my absolute favorite restaurants in Bangsar for dinner and had called to increase the seating for two kids.  But come dinner time, the kids pestered to go to the_Ship instead.

I dropped V and dotter off at the entrance while my son and I went around finding parking.

While we were walking pass some pubs there, there were three lovely ladies standing outside one of the pubs.  They were some beer promoter and you know they dress to kill, in short minis and all.  So we were walking pass them and my son commented to me, "Pheet weet… lenglui hor?"  The ladies laughed and one said to me in Cantonese, "So young oledi so sai lek (so terror)."  Walking away my son asked me why we were not eating there instead? :P

I wonder if I will get to experience such moments with my best friend again in the future.

After dinner, V suggested we take the kids over to Laundry_The_Curve for drinks but the jam was horrendous.  It was almost impossible and we decided to give up and turned back to V’s apartment.  The kids spent the night there with us.  My wife was ‘not pleased’ but I had to be selfish.  I promised my wife that she could have them back first thing tomorrow morning.

The next morning, my kids said goodbye to their Auntie V and when they hugged her, V cried.  My kids kept asking why she was crying.

I told the kids to leave all the stuff that V had bought for them at the apartment.  I don’t know whether my wife would burn them if she found out it was from V.  :P

So how was your X’mas?

Three years after Princess was married to Bob, Bob had an affair with a China doll.  Princess had suspected something and when confronted, Bob confessed to the affair.  I won’t go into all the reasons but one of the reasons he said he had an affair was because Princess complained too much, likes to organize and make decisions without asking him.  

To me personally, those are just excuses.  Which woman doesn’t complain wan.  *ducks from all the shoes thrown at my direction*  If you’re a man and you think that’s a reason to have an affair, stay single.

When the affair with the China doll ended, Bob started another affair with a local girl.  He moved out without giving any notice to Princess.  He never came home.  They were married on paper but lived single lives. 

Princess cried often and blamed herself for the failure of her marriage.  She read a lot of books on relationships, on how to be a good wife.  She evaluated herself and tried to change but Bob didn’t give her a chance.  She made effort to reconcile but failed.  Instead Bob told her to not ‘lock’ herself up in the house.  He asked her to make new friends, to do new things, etc.  She took his advice.

Three years have passed since Bob’s confession and Princess met another guy, Zico.  At first she thought it would just be a fling.  She was officially still a married woman.  But the relationship became serious and she fell in love once again.  But in order to be with Zico, she needed a divorce from Bob.

When she finally decided she wanted to tell Bob that she wanted a divorce, she realized she was pregnant with Zico’s child.  She would have to break two bad news to Bob as well as her own parents.  A hard thing to do.

She finally told Bob she was pregnant and wanted a divorce.  Bob took his time to reply her.  Her parents were annoyed that she had committed adultery.  They would only accept the divorce if Bob met them and opened his mouth.  Months had passed and Princess had already given birth to a beautiful baby boy. 

In the midst of all this, Zico was pissed because he thought Princess didn’t make an effort to get the divorce quick enough to marry him and announce the news to his own family.  It affected their relationship and he had also started a new job at that time which kept him occupied.

Princess dedicated her time and effort in her son that she totally ignored the importance of the divorce.  Perhaps both of them were playing the waiting game.

Although Bob stayed apart from Princess, he continued to provide her allowance, for the house, for the car.  Perhaps he felt it was his responsibility to do so.

Raising a child alone is a real challenge.  Princess wants a family for her son.  She wanted a companion and doesn’t want to be lonely.

Recently Bob told Princess that he wanted to ‘return’.  He assured her that things would be different.  He will change.  But Princess shot him down.  She doesn’t love Bob anymore.  Her heart is dead towards him. She only loves Zico now.

However Zico is also facing the situation whereby if he accepts Princess, he will have difficulty breaking the news to his family and friends.  Moreover the son is now more than a year old.

Financially Princess is ok and she feels she could continue to raise her son alone but she doesn’t really want that.  She wants a father figure for her son.  She wants her son to have a dad around.

The question is if you were in her shoes, what would you do?