Is anyone worried about H1N1 yet?  I only see a handful of people wearing mask around town.  The majority probably think the outbreak hasn’t reached a critical point yet.  But that’s the way with us Malaysians.  We’ve traditionally never been big in taking preventive measures.  We always react only when it directly involves us.  Just like a few years ago when the haze was at it’s worst.  Everyone started wearing masks only when they felt the effects.

When H1N1 first hit our shores, the authorities had the balls to declare that Malaysia would be considered free of the virus if there were no new cases in the next 3 days and that’s what they did.  Declaring in our well known Malaysia Boleh pride that we were free of H1N1.  But when the cases kept coming in, they said all the cases were import cases, from people coming into Malaysia.  Malaysia was still safe as there were no local cases.

I don’t know about you but when Korea (or was it Japan?) first reported case of H1N1, I had already expected Malaysia will be affected.  And when Australia and NZ announced H1N1 cases, I definitely knew it was just a matter of time.  If countries such as Amelika, Japan, Australia dan lain-lain lagi are finding it hard to contain the outbreak, what makes you think we can?

I’m not looking down on the people who are from the healthcare industry, who are directly involved, the frontliners.  H1N1 is hard to detect as you don’t show symptoms until the third day of infection.  So you could be infected during the flight and airport checks would show no signs.  You go home, hug your children, give them free kisses and make love to your wife.  Then you go yumcha with your frens.  The next day you go to work and hug your secretary.  Then you give hi-fives all round to your colleagues.  How many did you come in contact with? :P

I’ve heard rumours (they are rumours unless someone can prove otherwise) of the frontliners falling asleep behind counters, slacking in their duties and about corruption in the checks.  We should really give these people some credit and recognition for what they are trying to do.  I would like to think people in healthcare as less incline to be corrupt then people in enforcement.  These people in healthcare are risking infection on a daily basis while carrying out these checks.  So let’s cut them some slack.

Todate Malaysia has 58 confirmed cases.  A handful of those are local transmissions.  What’s worrying is that schools now have confirmed cases.  It started with the closure of Jln Davidson, followed by the closure of Assunta.  At the end of today, classes in four more schools has been ordered to close.  Seri Cempaka, Sek9 Shah Alam, Wangsa Maju and Damansara Utama.

Now comes the point of this post.  Kiasu-ism.

Some parents instead of worrying about their children getting infected, they’re worried that their children will miss one week of school.  So much so that the deputy_principal has to ‘assure’ parents that their children’s education will not be interrupted and they would be able to catch up.  She indicated not all parents are ‘cooperative’.  Kakaka… we get the message.

I experienced first hand the kiasu-ism from one mother whose son is in one of the above schools.  I’m supposed to meet her later this week (remember the charity thingy?) but she called today to cancel.  She told me her son is in the class that was closed.

I asked her if she’s concerned about H1N1 now that there’s a confirmed case in her son’s school.  She starts ranting that she’s more concerned that her son is going to be missing his lessons while the rest of the students are not.  The school is not going to be closed, just that class.  She feels this is really unfair.  She says nowadays students can’t afford to miss one week of class and to make matters worst she can’t send her son to tuition classes as well.  "I’m really afraid he’s going to fall behind the other students now."  She then blames the parents who allowed the infected student to go to school, putting everyone else at risk.

It amazes me that in that 5 minute or so rant, the main focus was about her son missing his class and not on the possibility of him getting infected with the virus.

And that my frens, is how kiasu we’ve become.

A random post of things you probably find very mou liu.  I took my offline notes and combined it into this long post.  See I told you my butt is heavy.  Btw, pu-pu is jargon for tipu-tipu.

Super Power

A young punk asked me what is the one super power that I would like to have.  I told him that’s such a childish question but answered him anyway, in a very mature and dignified manner, with a slightly fake British accent, "Why… I’d like to jump like in the Jumper movie."  One minute I’m in KL and then *Poof!* I’m on top of the Eiffel Tower.  *Poof!*  I’m in Denise_Milani’s shower.  No more poofs. :P

Young punk tells me he’d like to have the ability to look inside people’s mind and influence them.  Like Greg_Grunburg’s character, Matt_Parkman in the TV series, Heroes.  He then gives me this stare as if trying to influence my mind to ask him why.  I ask why.  He says so he can influence every hot chick he meets to sleep with him.

Actually that’s a pretty good super power to have. :P

The great iPhone hoo haa

Both my partner and my youngest brother are iPhone users.  My partner won’t admit it (he’s a true blue Apple user) but I think he misses his previous HTC.  Once in a while when he’s unaware that I’m watching him, I would catch him cursing his iPhone.  "Stupid $%#%!"

My brother is not a true blue Apple user, not a tech savvy, internet surfing user.  He’s just a trend chaser and just likes to have the latest phones.  He told me he wished he hadn’t gotten the iPhone.  He wished he had done more research before lining up at the Maxis_centre with the rest of the world.  He told me that the queue at the Kepong branch was filled with lala chais and lala muis, who arrived in their heavily modified ‘wajalutions’ (Wajas modifed to look like Mitsubishi Evolutions).

He spent quite sometime trying to figure out how to copy all his mp3s and his gf’s photos over to his new phone.  He called Maxis and they weren’t much of a help.  They just told him to register with iTunes.  So he finally turned to me for help and I set it up for him.

A certain celebrity blogger said that the iPhone’s on-screen keyboard was fairly easy to use.  Now if you’ve never used a Blackberry or any smartphone with a qwerty keypad, I’d believe you.  If you have toothpicks as fingers, I’d believe you.  I find the keyboard to be such an annoyance.

Now another celeb blogger of a certain ‘nang’ company, once blogged about his iPhone.  He said he wished he had never bought it.  He listed some reasons why the iPhone sucked.  I agreed with him then.

Then one day, when one of his clients brought the iPhone officially into Msia, this celeb blogger changed his tune and sang praises of the ‘official’ iPhone.  Hello! Official or not, it’s still the same iPhone!  Of course it has 3G now but it still has the same 2mp camera, no mms, no video, cannot save email attachments, cannot transfer files via bluetooth and on and on and on.  So pu-pu man.  pu-pu is jargon for tipu-tipu.

I’d take a Blackberry (or even a HTC) over the iPhone any day.

If any of my readers are iPhone users, I just wanna tell you, the iPhone is the best phone in the world!!! Yea…. clap hand, clap hand, jump around sing song, scratch buntut. :P

Btw, if you want to own an iPhone and want it for free, you should try joining McD’s blogging contest.  http://www.mymcd.com.my/bloggercontest/howtowin.html.  I’d join not bcoz of the prize but just to see if they would like a completely sampat and mental post about their lunch (and services). Muahahahahaha.

Leng chai

Leng chai or leng lui.  That term is supposed to mean a handsome guy or a pretty girl, right?  But I think it’s become so common because people use it in a ’saja’ or pu-pu manner.  Example, when I’m dining at one of those char chan teng say Kim Gary, I wouldn’t call out, "Eksuse me waiter" or "Eksuse me miss".  I’d normally call out, "Eksuse me Leng Chai!" or "Eksuse me Leng Lui!". 

Just because I use the term ‘Leng’, doesn’t really have to mean I think that person is a leng lui or leng chai, correct or not?  It was used in a pu-pu manner.  A means of greeting someone.

Unless it’s used like dis, "Lei hou 7 leng lui ahhhh. Leng! leng! leng!", then it really does imply that the girl is really pretty.  Or like dis, "Adrian charn hai leng chai oooh".  That also implies that Adrian is very the hensem hensem.

So.  The other day I was having lunch with my partner and he went to order the food while I sat at the table.  The lady (probably in her late twenties) asked my partner in chinese, "Ah sai, eat what?"  I’m not sure what’s the definition of ah sai.  I think it’s boss?

When the food arrived, I ask the helper (either a Myanmar or Vietnamese) for an extra plate of chilli.  I assumed she understood chinese so I spoke to her in chinese.  She didn’t understand me but didn’t say anything either.  Instead she went back to her boss and told her I wanted something.  The lady boss came over to our table and asked me in chinese, "Leng Chai, what u want?"

My partner couldn’t believe what he heard, "WTF!? She called me ah sai but called you leng chai!? Blind or wat?"

I’m not perasan la.  I know it was used in the same pu-pu manner.  More like referring to the gender of a person.  A male is leng chai, female is leng lui.  Correct or not?  But of course in front of my partner, I had to bask in my moment of glory.  "Whatodo. People can only see my hensem face. It’s something I’ve had to live with for most of my life."  I so pu-pu hor? :P

At that moment, life just had to send the helper back with my extra plate of chilli.  And she asked me "Ini chilli ah, Uncle?"

Niamah!

The pharmacist

I seldom visit a doctor.  I normally go to my regular pharmacist.  For some reason I just feel more comfortable with her.  Cold, sore throat, cough, fever or kentut non-stop, she takes care of all my medication needs.  Some times it’s to stock up on some ‘pills’.

On my last visit over the weekend, I went to stock up again.  Normally I’d just tell her how many packs of _Postinor2_ I need.  This time she very sing muk and asked me "The usual?"  I said yes.  She passed it to me and commented, "Wah, very fast finish hor?"

I was taken by surprise by her comment and my brain couldn’t think fast enough to which I could only reply, "Yeah lor. I read it’s supposed to make my face more smoother and look younger but so far not much difference also."  Her eyes open big big and I walked away to pay at the counter.

Of course, I’m not taking the pill but eh, true wan you know.  I no pu-pu you wan.  Men who take the pill have smoother skin.  (but your breasts also become big in the long run) :P

Serious!  A few years ago school kids were taking pills to get rid of their acne problems.  It was reported in the media and they put up restrictions.  You couldn’t just buy it off the counter.  You had to give your name and IC number.  I no pu-pu you wan. 

Turning two

My partner’s kid, who is also my god son, turned two recently.  I was invited to the birthday bash and my partner told me to bring V along.  I asked him what about his wife, who is a friend of mine and also knows the mother of my children.  I don’t want it to be awkward for V or his wife.  He told me that he doesn’t keep secrets from his wife.  Pu-pu!

V tagged along.  It was awkward. :P

I remember it was 1998 when I got out of the lift of a building along Jalan_Raja_Chulan and saw a large group of people gathering by the roadside.  I crossed the road to get to my client’s office and stopped to see smoke coming out from one of the buildings.  There was a small fire.  I noticed this cute young lady standing close by and I told her I hoped it wasn’t her office that was on fire.  She said she hoped that it would burn to the ground and laughed. 

We exchanged business cards and got together for some drinks together with her friends later that week when I went to visit that same client.  My partner was with me at that time and I told him to tag along.  They didn’t hit it off but after a few more gatherings and dinners, my partner got ‘feel’ wor he said. 

After about a month, they arrived together to dinner holding hands.  3 years down the road, I was MC at their wedding.  Right off, they wanted a child but for some reason wasn’t succesful in conceiving.  When she finally got pregnant, it got into some complications and they lost the first pregnancy.

That’s all history as they’ve got a ‘cacing’ 2 year old now, who’s a handful to carry even for a seasoned toddler carrying expert like me. :P

The ‘commission’ dilemma

We were shortlisted by a potential client for a one year contract.  I was called to meet the head of marketing for negotiations.  He said my proposal of 105k was over their budget by 15k.  He wanted to negotiate.  I told him on the spot, done deal.  90K with a condition that they sign the contract within a week, or else 105k stays.  I was pu-pu of course.  My partner and I had already decided that they were a good brand to add to our portfolio and as long as we didn’t make a loss, we’d be very accomodating. :P

He was impressed that I didn’t need to go back to discuss.  I told him he was dealing with the Master of the Universe.  He could talk to me.

He immediately liked me and told me that he would champion us to get the contract.  His boss is the one who signs the contract but he is the one who picks the successful bidder because their web initiative comes under marketing which is led by him.  I thanked him and told him he would get a new proposal in a day.

On my way back from his office, I get a phone call from him.  He asked me if I wanted to have lunch but I declined as I had already reached KL.  Sensing hesitation in his voice, I asked him what it was that he wanted to talk about.

He pu-pu at first, saying times are hard la, bla, bla, bla but in the end asked me if I was willing to mark up the proposal to 140K!  He wanted a cut from the deal.  50K to be shared among him (GM) and his two managers, 30k-10k-10k.  Guaranteed the contract would go to us.

I’ve done plenty of such deals before during my employment days.  But those days, I didn’t feel the karma would fall on me because I always told my gwai lo boss about such deals.  And because he never objected, I took it as he was the one who authorized it.  It’s his signature on the contract anyway.

But honestly hor, I don’t believe in karma (dat much) hor.  So you know where I stand lor… muahahahahaha!  Eh, times are bad leh!  Need marnee for the divorce leh!  (Notice my chinaman business voice come out oledi.)  :P

My ‘use recycled paper, conserve energy, save the whales, change the world’ partner on the other hand wants to ask them to fly kite.  We do all the work, they buta-buta pocket 50k.  Technically, our work is covered by the 90k.  And it’s not really buta-buta becoz they did meet all vendors, evaluate each proposal and choose the winning one.  Oklah, quite buta-buta also lah.

So how? So how?

I don’t understand this.  How could someone allow a 3 year old to walk alone at 10pm at night, to his grandfather’s home, some 200 metres away!?  In this case, I feel the parents should be held responsible.

3-year-old kidnap victim found dead

IPOH: The body of a three-year-old boy, who was believed to have been kidnapped Sunday night, was found at the estuary of Kuala Bagan Tiang River, Bagan Serai, 120km from Ipoh on Monday.

Kerian police chief Supt Mat Fauzi Nayan said Lee Li Xuan’s body was found floating among tree branches at about 10am by villagers who then alerted the police.

Fauzi said the victim’s father, Lee Boon Chung, 25, had lodged a police report that a man kidnapped his son while he was watching a stage show at a garden near his grandfather’s house in Bagan Tiang at 10pm last night.

Li Xuan was said to have walked alone to his grandfather’s house from his home in Taman Damai, some 200 metres away, to watch the show.

Clad in a blue T-shirt and a red short pants, Fauzi said Li Xuan was said to have been abducted in a Proton Aeroback which was seen heading for Parit Buntar

No arrest has been made so far.

Those with information on the incident can contact Bagan Serai Police District headquarters at 057215222 or Supt Mat Fauzi Nayan at 0196666496. - Bernama

Report from theStar Online.

Like the title says, I’m not on hiatus.  I’ve been around, updating other channels except this one.

Dunno why every time I want to login here, my butt starts feeling heavy.  As heavy as those cheap locally made rims.  Very susah to move.

I think part of the reason for my butt’s heaviness is that I’m normally in a blogging mood when I’m not online.  So I type out my post using a word editor or notepad, sometimes even using dreamweaver.  Most often, I type it out as a note on my phone (only do this if you have a qwerty keypad).  I’ve been doing a lot of this lately.  Especially when I’m in idle mode, waiting for someone or sitting at a cafe somewhere without my lappie.  Beats staring at the world pass by.

I would normally sync those post on my phone to my laptop and post it up here which was a little bit of a hassle bcoz I had to turn on the laptop, go she-she, plug in my sync cable, plug in my phone, dig my nose, wait for the software to sync, etc.  Butt getting heavy.

Then I stumbled upon a site called posterous which allowed postings via email.  All I have to do is type out a post and send it to their email.  I could easily do it from my mobile.  The post would automatically get published on my posterous site.  And the best thing about posterous is that they automatically handle photos or videos that are included as attachments.  Didn’t even have to lift up my butt.  I found out later that wordpress has email posting as well but enough blogs la.  Want to die meh post here post there.

Besides with social media and micro-blogging at it’s peak, I read that traditional way of blogging will soon fade away.  Which explains why blogspot is tying up with facebook.  I think soon you could have a blogspot tab on your fb page.  Nowadays everyone is on facebook.  The mother of my children & her relatives.  Almost every client I meet.  Even some of my heng tais.  The other day one of them asked me if I was on fb and I lied.  He asked me why so ‘char’ wan and asked me to faster go register.  As if I needed another fella to poke me. :P

But a lot of bloggers who’ve stopped blogging are also blogging in fb.  My fav has to be KopiSoh’s notes.

Then there’s twitter.  I created an account some time ago but found it to be such a hassle to have to login to tell people where you are or what you’re doing, that I lost the password.  Then kat mentioned something about it and I remembered my password which was bungabungaberguguranditepipantaicintaberahi.

How could I have forgotten that password!

And twitter now even have email updates.  Just send an email and it’s posted.  Me likey.  Butt no heavy.

What is the point of this post anyway?  Butt no heavy?  No more frequent updates on this blog? 

Any other online sites that you use?

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Let’s continue from the ‘Behind every succesful man is a woman’ post.

Everyone has their own definition.  I have mine.  But individuals who have experience it, can truly say it with conviction.

Dr.M said it before.

Anwar’s wife Dr_Wan_Azizah allows him to say it out loud with pride.  Without her he would have been long forgotten.

Lee_Kuan_Yew said the same about Mdm_Kwa.

John_Chow said his wife was his number one reason for his success.  Always cheering him on and inspiring him to succeed.

Pak_Lah quickly remarried because he knew the ingredient for success.  Oklar, not all are success stories. :P

Seen our new PM’s wife lately?  You dare tell me she’s not playing a part in his success?  Can you guess who came out with his brilliant branding campaign 1Msia, his blog, tweets and even facebook?  I dunno, I’m asking you. ;)

Men are the most unbalanced creatures.  Walk also senget wan.  Noticed or not?  Who keeps a man balanced?  Only a woman can.  Who can he turn to when something goes wrong?  If he can’t, he’ll just keep it all inside.  Only a woman can take care of a man’s emotional needs.  Only a woman can inspire a man, give him motivation and be his reason to achieve something.

Oklar. Enough oledi with the bs.  Which comes to the reason for my post.

When I decided to take over the business, the first thing I did was work on a cashflow projection.  I cannot stress how important this is for people who want to start a business.  I did not want to go into it and ‘chap lup’ in the end which happened to a business venture I went into many years back.  A friend’s uncle was opening a cafe in 1U and my friend had a part in it.  He asked me to join in.  Both of us didn’t know anything about the food business but his uncle had work experience in Vietnam.  Trusting his uncle I just blindly took a small stake, believing that food business will always make money.  

At that time the New_Wing was under construction.  We believed that when the New_Wing opened, our business would take off because we were located at the lower ground walkway connecting the Old_Wing with New_Wing.  Unfortunately we couldn’t last the distance.  It was either pump in more money or sell the business to someone else.  My friend’s uncle decided not to continue and wanted to sell his stake to us but what did we know about running a restaurant.  So Kaboom!  We cut our loses.

That failure was a big lesson for me.  My wife made sure I was reminded of my ‘foolishness’.

But with my business now, it’s different.  I know the industry.  I know the business.  Since my boss is leaving, it’s really just continuing the business without him (and pay).  It was a risk worth taking.  I came out with a cashflow and had a projection of the worst case scenario.  I had a number as capital that would sustain the business for two years.  I offered my current partner a slice of the pie.  He was only willing to fork out a small sum which was fine by me.  I had some savings and we were also being offered pay packages by my boss.  I took a risk with almost everything I had.

I told my significant other.  She was on board with the idea until I told her how much money was involved and the sacrifices I had to make.  I had to give up our office in the Twin_towers.  I was only going to retain a handful of employees, only those under my partner’s department.  I had to give up the company beemer.  I had to give up my meal allowance which meant the company wasn’t paying for our meals anymore.  I had to give up travel allowance, full petrol and handphone claim.  I was going to take a much much lower salary than what I was getting.  And most of all, I wasn’t going to get 10% commission on every business deal.

All this will change when the company makes serious money of course.

I did not need my wife to take care of the home while I went out on my ‘quest to succeed’.  She can continue to work and she should, since she was earning more than me at that time.  I can concentrate on my business and stay at home to look after the kids (Last time I got maid mah).  Besides got chips and ice-cream also. :P

All I wanted was some support.  Building a business doesn’t happen overnight.  You think I got any support?

All I got was negativity.  That I should go out and work for someone, especially foreign companies with operations here.  Demand a well enough pay with fringe benefits.  Steady income every month.  Commission.  Company car.  Meal allowance.  I had already failed once.  I was wasting time.  Business is not for me.

I met a guy last year and we have been in regular contact through business.  He was one of the senior partners of a fast moving company.  They were to be listed on the second board and the financial crisis in the 90s struck.  He suffered heavy loses in the share market.  He lost every thing including his home.  After everything settled down, he started another company.  He was a one man show.

This time things were progressing slowly.  He would go more than a year without salary.  His wife was the bread winner and supported him with her salary which wasn’t much.  She also had to pay for the car loan and the rental of their apartment.  He thought about giving up the business and going back to full time employment but his wife was against it.

Instead his wife encouraged him and gave him her full support.  He remembers clearly what his wife told him that caused him to leap up and strive to succeed.  His wife told him that he shouldn’t give up and should continue with the business.  She believed in his ability to build the business.  He had done it before (with the earlier company) and she was confident he would be able to do it again.

Today he is no longer a one man company.  He even started a branch in India employing over 70 employees.  He is grateful to his wife for believing in him.  If she hadn’t shown belief in him, he would probably be in full time employment.

Having the support of a significant other is a big encouragement factor.  Someone that believes in you, cheers for you and lifts up your spirits even if you fall flat on your ass.  That is my definition of ‘Behind every successful man is a woman’.  It’s an old saying but taken in today’s context, it should work both ways.  Man, woman, she-man, he-woman, Beverly Hills Chihuahua, watevar! :P

Well I don’t have a woman behind me but I got……  I pigi tidor dulu.  Tomorrow got meeting.  Sambung besok.

I shared this link on facebook and really thought I should share it here as well because it is quite a feel good story.  Quite inspirational and a good wake up call as well.  I shared this with V and she was moved to tears (at least I think she was).  She’s been hooked since and have been following the fan site. :P

I can’t embed the video here because embedding has been disabled by YouTube so I’ll just paste the link. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lp0IWv8QZY

This is the story about 47 year old Susan_Boyle who went to addition on Britain’s Got Talent.  Before going on stage, she confessed that she lives alone with her cat, never been married and never been kissed.  I had read somewhere that when she walks down the street, kids would make fun of her and laugh at her because of the way she looked and because she was a loner.  She was also often bullied when she was young because she had a learning disability.

So when she went out on stage, she got the same cynical reaction.  She struggled a bit with a question Simon_Cowell asked her about where she’s from.  The studio audience whistled, sneered, rolled their eyes - the usual stuff they do when they don’t think highly of someone.

But then Miss Boyle sang and the rest is history.  She became an overnight sensation, topping UK’s most searched for person online.

The audience gave her a standing ovation.  The judges were shell shocked and moved to tears.  Simon was feeling so ‘lum’ that he is in the process of organising a record deal for her.

Now it got me thinking.  Why do so many viewers get teary eyed by watching her sing?  Even a macho macho man like me, almost got teary eyed.  Akcerli no lah! Where got!? :P

I think the answer is quite simple.  What Miss Boyle did, smacked me right in the face.  It was a wake up call.  A reminder of how judgemental society have become.  We only take notice of outer beauty, what we see on the outside is given such high regards - a beautiful face, a sexy body, cool and hip clothes, etc.

We treat people with respect when they are beautiful on the outside.  It’s easier to be friends with pleasantly looking people.  We strike up a conversation with that beautiful young woman (or person) while waiting in line but ignore that other person who live one floor above us when we bump into each other in the same lift.

When I was young, I only took interest in the pretty ones and didn’t even notice their friends.  Some of who I realize now, had a much interesting personality than their pleasantly looking friends.

Although I’ve vastly improved at my age now than when I was younger, sometimes we tend to forget.  I offer to take some clients out to lunch but make up excuses to some others when they offer me instead because in my mind, I am already subconsciously judging them.  I listen to the cool guy in front of me talk about football but ignore that uncool guy sitting right beside me who’s trying to do the same.  I stop to chat with some parents of my dotter’s friend but walk past some others.  I greet some neighbours and others I ignore.

All these I’m still guilty.  Even though I remind myself to treat everyone the same.

So the next time I see that lady in the lift, I’m going to strike up a conversation about her grandchildren instead of just turning around to face the door.  The next time the guy sits beside me again, I’m going to take an interest in what he has to say about Man United (even though I hate MU).

That’s what Miss Boyle does to me.  Reminds me to never judge a book by it’s cover.

Questions like these should never be asked to a man.  And it’s not because we don’t know the answer.  The answer is of course true love.  Errr… isn’t it? :P

It’s because a question like that makes our brain do some unnecessarily thinking.  *Hmmm… I think… true… no no no…. great…. no no.  Geez, I’d like to use a life line. I’d like to phone a friend?*

Why?  Why ask us?  No answer will ever be acceptable to you ladies.

If I say "Why dear, of course true love."  She will say "So I’m bad in bed? Is that what you’re saying!? What!? I’m not good enough for you!?"

If I say "Why dear, great sex of course."  She will say "So what do you call what we have? A fling!? What!? I’m not good enough for you!?"

The best thing to do in this situation is to fake a stomach ache and run to the toilet, lock the door and climb out the window.

So I used my life line and phoned a friend.  Ok, actually it was a conversation over coffee with two friends.  Two female friends who are sisters.  One’s still single, the other married with kids.  Single one says that with true love you’ll never know until it’s too late.  Great sex you’ll know in the morning. :P

The married one says she wouldn’t know.  She’s still waiting for great sex to happen. :P

What’s your take?  Guys no need to crack your head.  There’s no right or wrong answer. :P